April 22, 2008

When your date has a child

It stands to reason that if you are slightly older and meet someone of a similar age, one of you may have children. But if it is the new girl in your life then there are some rules that you may need to apply to yourself in order not to put any strain on the relationship.

These are some rules that could do you a favour on day:

Don’t Take Rejection By Your Date’s Child/Children Personally
Don’t Try To Be A Second Parent To The Child
Don’t Try To Bully The Child Into Submitting To You
Don’t Try To Separate The Child From The Parent You Are Dating
Never Say Negative Things About The Parent That Isn’t Around
Don’t Ignore The Child
Don’t Battle With The Child
Don’t Try To Bribe The Kid
Don’t Get Upset Or Angry If The Child Doesn’t Seem To Respond To You In What You Consider To Be A Timely Manner
Don’t Do Things To Make The Child Feel That They Can’t Trust You
Don’t Make Fun Of Any Issues The Child May Have Or May Be Experiencing
Don’t Interrupt During Times When The Child Is Trying To Connect With The Child You Are Dating
Don’t Be Mean To The Child
Don’t Try To Keep The Non Custodial Parent From Interacting With The Child
Don’t Ignore The Rules Of The Custodial Parent

Remember, unless you win over the child, there is no chance with the mother.

Source [The Dating Tips Magazine]